Do you want to regain your self-esteem?

Sometimes finding self-esteem seems like an impossible goal because we always fall back on lack. And yet, we know that self-esteem cannot come from outside, but it merely comes from accepting ourselves for who we are and how we talk to ourselves. Especially the language we use towards ourselves matters the most.

First, we must learn to speak the correct sentences and words to ourselves.  Fact is: Some words increase self-esteem, and others invite all possible obstacles to stay low in self-esteem. If you don’t want to open the door to hell, restoring self-esteem is a must.

We all know how important it is to have a good relationship with ourselves and, therefore, good self-esteem. Not liking oneself and not having enough self-esteem can be the origin of many troubles and other issues.

We are the reflection of our daily sentences and words towards ourselves. We become what we say every day. Our beliefs, especially those about ourselves, create us every day. The more we use the wrong words against ourselves, the more insecurity, distrust, disenchantment will grow.

Therefore, to find the way back to trust and self-esteem, it is necessary to start from our daily words.

In the jungle of the typical sentences that condemn self-esteem, here are some:

It’s all my fault; I can’t do anything right!  Something is wrong with me; I’m just insecure. I haven’t been able to negotiate more salary. I’m a failure… I wish I’d been emotionally controlled, but instead, I screamed. If I go on like this, I will never accomplish anything, and all others think I’m hysterical, on and on…

Self-esteem becomes lower and lower cause the vicious circle is running up at full speed with these drivers: You judge everything and everyone, first yourself and again yourself.

You give too much weight to the past and the future, and you miss the present. You make constant comparisons, and you never get it right, but you want to look like…

You are always making unsatisfactory balance sheets; you have a whole collection of them. You want to be successful at all costs: so, a minor defeat makes you feel like a failure, and you go back to square 1.

The good news is, you can change your daily song (if you want to). Here some sentences and thoughts:

True, it’s an obstacle, but it won’t change my life. I can handle it.

I can change my mindset if I work on it.

Ok, it happened; it is as it is. I screwed.  Here we go again; I learned my lesson.

I’ll do my best, whatever comes.

I trust my intuition and change the job. Later you might say: It was the winning move.

Yes, I got a bit emotional, but it was deliberating to tell my honest thought.

Talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend. You would never harm your friend. Take these points into consideration; a situation is never final and unchangeable, never.

Be creative and give yourself room to express yourself. You can’t be everybody’s darling, so other people’s judgment doesn’t bother you anymore. Dare to express your true feelings and sensations.

You cannot control other people’s words, but what you can are your words towards yourself.

Choose wisely.

Photo by Pascale Weber