How not to shut the door on your happiness when it comes to visiting you

The first rule, mind your tongue, how we talk matters, and more than often, it’s precisely our attitudes that limit our happiness to enter our life.

Fact is, if we want this feeling of happiness/self-fulfilment in our life, we need the right mindset. We can’t avoid these uncomfortable emotions like sadness, anger, grief, etc. Still, we can welcome them when they knock at our door and acknowledge them without analysing.

What blocks happiness from coming along? Here a typical menu that we serve ourselves:

“Happiness depends on the outside”. We are always looking for something, hoping that a project will come true, that a fulfilling event will finally occur that can make us feel happy.

“Happiness is rare”. No, not precisely, but the standard view is that happiness corresponds to exceptional events: marriage, first love, graduation, signing a good contract, a memorable holiday, the birth of a child. And in everyday life? We are so used to routine and habits. But life is full of happy moments, as long as we don’t kill them with obsessive thoughts of the past.

“You have to deserve it” is equivalent to happiness comes with struggle, hard work, commitment, sacrifice and renunciation. Must it be that complicated? What if we give it space within ourselves.

“Happiness is a complex goal. If we think that we will only be happy when we have achieved that particular goal, we are postponing happiness to an idealistic future that may never come. Nowhere is there a perfect world without conflicts, obstacles, challenges.

It is such an ideal world that it is non-existent. But if happiness becomes a utopia, unhappiness becomes the norm, which we endure, perhaps given a higher goal.

Everything we need to be happy is already available to us; just let the door open.

Photo by Pascale Weber