Comparison: A fatal poison…

First, we must understand what this comparison?

The comparison is an unconscious alibi for not taking the situation in hand: one prefers to see everything perfect in others and everything wrong in oneself, rather than face the coexistence, in one’s reality, of positive and negative aspects, of good periods and moments of crisis.

But only the acceptance of this alternation can make you live the genuine concerns of life in a way that is not self-destructive but rather an opportunity to complete yourself.

What to do: Observe and don’t judge; you will understand how to get out of it.

Is it necessary to talk about your moods: NO! When you fall into a crisis, and it feels natural to keep making unfavourable comparisons, first of all, avoid expressing them to others. This simple rule will help your mind to do less of it and process the situation differently. It takes the edge off, avoids unnecessary consolation and forces you to come to terms with reality.

Strengthen yourself. When you have come out of sadness and are well, don’t ignore what you have experienced: you can now deal more healthily with those aspects of yourself and your life that you feel are fragile and fail when you are unwell. You can calmly devote yourself to strengthening them to find yourself more prepared and aware.

📸 Pascale Weber